Guide to Using Whips and Paddles
It sounds really seductive to trail a flogger across your partner’s skin before concluding with a swift flick of the wrist.
However, it doesn’t mean it’s not also a little scary.
Don’t worry!
Everything you need to know about purchasing a flogger or BDSM whip for the first time (are they even the same thing?) will be covered in this tutorial.
Along with that, I’ll walk you through how to use a flogger safely and how to get started.
What’s the Difference Between a Whip and a Flogger?
A whip and a flogger are two distinct kinds of instruments used for impact play in the kink and BDSM communities. But in reality, they are frequently used interchangeably when it comes to purchasing them.
Typically, a flogger
- Possesses more “tails” or falls
- Is truncated
- Has a wider range of applications.
- May be an excellent impact play tool for beginners.
However, with a whip:
- Frequently just need one fall
- Larger or longer than a flogger, maybe
- Fits better for people with greater experience
Thuddy vs Sting-y Impacts
The phrases “thuddy” and “stingy” are frequently used to characterize the feelings that different effects evoke. These explain how they feel in the body and on our skin.
Wider falls and a greater region of the body are struck in thuddier hits, which give off a “thud”-like feeling.
Conversely, floggers or whips with stiffer, thinner material cause a stinging sound instead of a thudding sound.
Consider the difference in stinginess between being whipped with a dish towel and being struck with a rolled-up newspaper.
Not the same, is that right?
Different Ways to Use Whips and Floggers
First, a few fundamental starting skills.
If impact play is something you and your partner have never done before, you might want to start very slowly.
Even those who have used a spanking paddle or given some spankings in the past might want to hold off on using a flogger right away.
Rather, begin with several lengthy strokes over your body to help both of you warm up and become accustomed to the feeling.
Plus, it creates a whole lot of sultry anticipation!
Once you’re both at ease, you can proceed to using a beginner-friendly flogger to apply gentle pressure to a meaty part of the body, such as the butt.
Give the floggee enough time to assess if they enjoy the feel and your technique by pausing for at least three seconds before each stroke.
Following the discovery of your groove, you may want to try the following:
- Once your aim and technique are comfortable, try some stronger strokes. Keep your contact with the fleshy parts of your body (see the section on locations to avoid below)!
- Consider purchasing a flogger or whip that is heavier or more stingy. Consult with your significant other to find out what kinds of sensations they would enjoy, and then check out our assessments of the greatest!
- Try out some cyclic strokes. Instead of hesitating in between strokes, each stroke flows into the next at this point.
- Give the mixture a little more fun! When your floggee is clamoring for more, try minor bondage, blindfolding them, or restraining their limbs.
Where Should I Hit?
Regarding whips and floggers, the positioning of your blows is crucial!
Generally speaking, you should aim to limit your exposure to the body’s meatier parts. Although most individuals target the buttocks, the thighs might also be a wonderful choice.
Some locations need to be handled carefully, yet they aren’t completely forbidden.
Extreme caution should be used while handling bodily parts such as the back, ribs, arms, lower legs, breasts, and genitalia. For these, you should only use extremely mild strokes.
I advise avoiding these places completely if you have a more sophisticated whip.
Areas to avoid completely?
the coccyx, face, hands, and feet, as well as the kidney region and spine.
Additionally, because healed skin is very sensitive and delicate, you should refrain from touching it.
Another thing to remember is that while using a flogger or whip, it’s critical that the object doesn’t wrap around the user’s body. This causes the tips of the falls to speed rapidly and may result in severe discomfort for your floggee—an unpleasant surprise!
Making sure your stroke technique is accurate and that you are sufficiently distanced from your partner are the greatest ways to prevent it.
You may hit a towel-wrapped pillow, your couch, or anything else soft with a little force to improve the precision of your strokes.
BDSM Safety and Aftercare
As with any other kink play, it is imperative that you prioritize your safety. It’s far more crucial in impact play because, well, you’re really striking someone.
Make sure you both agree on impact play before making any purchases or taking any action. Talk to each other honestly and openly about the things that both of you find comfortable and interesting—ideally throughout numerous talks.
It’s acceptable to express doubts or concerns regarding specific elements, but everyone must be willing to give it a try.
You should also decide on a safeword or cue as a group if you’ve decided to test out a whip or flogger. There is nothing that Floggee can say or do to halt the scene right away, no questions asked.
Before you begin, make sure you both understand what each phrase will signify. Remember to practice appropriate aftercare after your sensual flogging session. BDSM may be emotionally and physically taxing, and it will take some time for you both to heal. Apply moisturizer to the floggee’s skin, cuddle up, and enjoy some food and liquids.
After every session, you should follow up with one another to make sure everything went as planned.
Buyer’s Guide to Whips and Floggers
Here are some tips for first-time buyers wanting to purchase their first flogger to have in mind while you browse around:
- The amount of falls — a competent beginning flogger often logs 20 to 30 falls. Less will undoubtedly feel too stingy or awkward, while more will most likely be too heavy.
- Materials — Suede is incredibly soft and effective for both warming up and stronger hits. Beginners can also use soft leather or imitation leather because of their flexibility.
- Weight — A light to medium weight flogger is what you should choose. This information is often included in the product description at most retailers.
- Length — 18 to 24 inches is a nice range to strive for. For personal flogging, you and your companion will be rather near, and you will have more control over your force and aim.
- Extras — Having a flogger with a handle loop that your wrist can pass through might be useful. That way, when it swings, it won’t unintentionally fly across the room!